I love talking to people. My favorite part of a conversation is when it moves away from the polite “Hi, How are you?” to a deeper level of sharing. I love when people open up and talk about the unique challenges they are facing, what they are interested in and share their hopes and dreams. It allows me to feel like I am not alone and inspires me to move towards my own interests. Conversations like this do not happen overnight. They are built on trust and authenticity. Today, I want to invite you to be honest and ask yourself “How are you? How are you really doing?”
The first step in “Keeping It All Together” is stopping. Let’s hit the pause button for a moment and start to evaluate where we stand physically, mentally and spiritually. This is an opportunity to be completely honest. Let’s allow ourselves some grace in this process too. Our responses will serve as a starting point for our work in finding a better balance in life.
According to research conducted by the Barna Group 1,
56% of moms feel overcommitted.
62% of moms are dissatisfied with work/home balance.
70% of moms are tired
80% of moms are stressed out.
95% of moms want to be better in one area of life.
You are not alone! The world is filled with overwhelmed, exhausted moms and I do not think we were created to live life this way.
Ask yourself the following questions. If you can journal your answers, great. If you only have time to read and think about one or two of the questions at a time, that’s great too. There is no right or wrong answer. Remember no pressure or judgement. We are working on lessening the burden not adding to it.
- On a scale from 1-10, how tired are you? Can you pinpoint the reasons why you are tired- baby in the house, lack of sleep, dealing with stressful circumstances….?
- On a scale from 1-10, how overwhelmed do you feel? Can you identify sources of stress?
- Is your current schedule working for you? Are you satisfied with it or do you wish for a change?
- Are you using your gifts and talents wisely?
- Are you overcommitted? Are the commitments things that you once enjoyed but now wish you could get out of?
- Are you surrounded by family or a community that supports you and you can depend on for help?
- How would you describe your relationship with God?
- Is life what you thought it would be? Are you enjoying your life?
- Are you making time to take care for yourself or explore an area of interest?
Every couple of months or so, I go through these questions again. Each time, I hope the changes I have made in my life or family’s schedule will be reflected in my answers. If not, I don’t stress it. It just means there is more work to be done or that I am in a particular season of life. Remember GRACE is key here! I would also encourage you to pray as you work through the questions. Ask God to give you eyes to see dissatisfaction and areas that need His strength and healing.
Now that we have taken a good, honest look at ourselves, we can move on to the next step. In the next post, we will work to identify what our priorities are and look to see how we are spending our time. Do our priorities and time match up?
PS If you can find six minutes, watch the following video clip from Barna Group. I do not think you will be disappointed.It’s for every woman trying to maintain the perfect everything and still falling short.